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Raised Among Islamophobes: Advice For New Parents

As an adult it is much easier to be Muslim among Islamophobes, to wear that hijab when you know what it represents to some people, to pray in the parking lot when people are staring, to bring your Qur’an on the airplane even though it may get you kicked off. But for tweens and teens, that tender age of emotions, peer importance, and the desire to fit in makes it more difficult to be Muslim in the west. So what do we do? I certainly am not an expert; my efforts are a continual work in progress – trials and errors, failures and successes, tears and joy. But what I have learned so far from my experience and the experience of other parents is the following:

Role modeling

It’s important that for children to feel blessed to be Muslim and unafraid to let the world know it, they should have someone to lead them by example. Children are copycats and if anyone sees behavior or attitudes in their children that they don’t like, they should to themselves first. 

Peers

Muslim children need to hang around other Muslim children. That doesn’t mean that they can’t have non-Muslim friends; it means they need close, practicing Muslim friends to strengthen their deen.

Knowledge of the deen

If they know their deen, they will be able to recognize the myriad of inaccuracies and outright lies about Islam that persist in an Islamophobic environment and be more able to set others straight. Teaching our kids, or providing them with the tools they need to learn is important when raising children to become confident in their deen.

Media awareness

The more they understand the media’s agenda and biases, the more they will not be affected by it and the more they will understand why other people are. My daughter has become a critic of the nightly news. She is learning to question the motives of the source of her information and to wonder what information she is not being told. She wants to hear about issues that concern her. She no longer listens to the news thinking that whatever is said is the truth.

Muslim girl in classroom

A sense of justice

“But that’s not fair” is something most parents have heard a lot. Children have a sense of justice, and throughout life, they will face many things that don’t seem fair, including how they may be treated. Children need to learn what Islam says about ‘justice’, and understand it in the context of Allah’s (SWT) will and qadr for a proper perspective.

A sense of humility

Being ‘proud’ does not mean that you feel superior to anyone. None of us knows what our end will be. Instilling a sense of humility by leading through example can help a child understand their place in the world.

Confidence

We all need the confidence to speak out against something accepted by the majority or act in a manner out of sync with the secular norm. Teach children how to use their voices to speak up against wrong, while also remaining humble and polite.

Commitment on our part

A parent needs to be committed to creating an environment to counteract anti-Islamic influences. We might have to drive an hour once a week for a play date with a Muslim friend or to don the hijab around disapproving relatives or take classes ourselves so we can teach our children the deen.

This looks like a long list and there are undoubtedly more that could be added to it. But as parents, we are doing these things anyway in other aspects of raising our children, whether it be helping them to succeed in school, promoting loving relationships with non-Muslim relatives, or driving them to a football game. These same efforts just need to be extended towards cultivating in our children a love of Islam such that no matter what anyone says, they are grateful to be Muslim and unafraid to make it known.

O Allah, unto You, do I complain of my weakness, of my helplessness, and of my lowliness before men. O Most Merciful of the merciful, You are Lord of the weak. And You are my Lord. Into whose hands will You entrust me? Unto some far-off stranger who will ill-treat me? Or unto a foe whom You have empowered against me? I care not, so You have not wrath with me. But You favoring help – that was for me the broader way and the wider scope! I take refuge in the light of Your countenance whereby all darknesses are illuminated and the things of this world and the next are rightly ordered, lest You make descend Your anger upon me, or lest Your wrath beset me. Yet is it Yours to reproach until You are well pleased. There is no power and no might except through You. (Du’a the Prophet (SAW) made after being rejected and wounded in Ta’if)

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